What Is It That You Really Want?

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….A lot of times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them. ~Steve Jobs

I remember sitting in the break room at a school I was attending, listening to one of my classmates complain about the things that were going on in her life. After listening to her for some time, I got the urge to ask her a burning question.

I looked at her and asked, “What is it that you really want?” She couldn’t answer me because she honestly didn’t know.

Hell, most of us don’t even know what we want, but we expect others to know and “don’t forget it, thank you!” But how many of us actually know what we want? I mean, what WE want…not what your spouse, kids, or your parents want.

Let me bring something to your attention. How aware are you of the words that you speak? Let me give you some examples:

“I don’t want to be late.”

“I don’t want to eat at that restaurant.”

“I don’t want to mess up this relationship like I did the others.”

“I don’t want be seen as a failure.”

Or worse, “I don’t want to live like this anymore.”

We can go on and on about the things that we don’t want, but yet, we find it hard to know exactly what it is that we DO want.

Here’s another we-know-all-too-well example of this. Think about a son/daughter who goes on to become a lawyer or a doctor because everyone in the family has a nice string of letters behind their names, but he/she really wants to become an artist. *Holy goat nipples, Batman!*

God forbid if they took the steps to live out their dreams; mommy and daddy would be pissed. No, their child MUST live out their dreams and become a doctor. Never do they take the time to realize it is not about what they want, it’s about what their child wants for his/her life.

How many of us do things, or take certain jobs because it is what “They” want, but it’s not what you want?

The examples I have listed should be enough of a slap in the face to wake us up and say, “It’s time for me to want what I want!”

Well, after you’ve proclaimed that…Do you know? What is it? What do you want?

When you know what you want and you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to get it. ~Jim Rohn

Let me share a few of mine.

*I want to be such an inspiration to women all over the world and help them to become empowered.

* I want to wake up and live a joy filled life each and every day.

* I want my kids to grow up and face their fears and live their lives filled with passion and creativity.

*I want to travel to Paris!

* I want to have my own personal masseuse (and dammit, I will have one!)

*I want to reach out and connect with like-minded people and gain new and rich friendships.

*I want a handsome hunk of a man in my arms every day, at my breakfast table every morning, and in my bed every night! (Hey, I’m just saying…)

It is of utmost importance to know exactly what it is that you want and never settle for anything less than.

Here’s a homework assignment for you (“Um, did she just say homework???” Yes, school is in session.)

An easy way to find out what you want is to make a list of the things you don’t want. Take a sheet of paper and draw a line right down the middle. On the left hand side, list your “don’t wants,” now on the right side, you’re going to flip it and find out the “do wants.”


  • “I don’t want to gain anymore weight.”
    “I want to be healthy and fit for my body structure.”
  • “I don’t want to feel like a failure.”
    “I want to be successful and I am taking the steps to achieve my dreams.”
  • “I don’t want to date anymore, because all men lie and cheat.”
    “I want to be in a healthy relationship with a man who loves and respects me enough to remain loyal. I know he’s out there.”
  • “I don’t want to be broke anymore.”
    “I want to be financially stable and money is a friend of mine!”

Knowing what you don’t want is all you need to start the adventure of a lifetime. ~AJ Leon

Got it? Good. This is what you must do: speak power into your life with your words. Make the list and check it twice!!

Now, that you know what you do want, what are you going to do to make it happen?


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